Solving money problem

Well solved another money problem today.  Well a band aid fix anyhow.  I borrowed money to pay my rego that is due tomorrow.  I still have to pay it back in a couple of weeks, but at least I still have my car on the road.  I have $30 left to last me 5 days and still need to buy 2 more meals a usb for my daughter for school and 3 more books.  Not to mention bread and milk and petrol.  Well one problem is solved I'm sure I will think of something.
My best friend left her husband today after a very rocky 10 years that continued to get worse.  I am sad for her because her dream is now over, but also releived cause now she can maybe find some peace without fighting all the time.  Worried for her because I know what she now has to go through and how hard the next 12 months are going to be and how hard it is going to be to be a single mother, and try to support the family.  but I also know that she will get through it.  We all do.  Well my internet friend is online and wants to talk so why not, he has a great sense of humour.  cheers.

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Well I had a great Australia day. Didn't do much but hung out with a great friend who is a single mum and her kid's. She has just had big hassle with her fiance, who is no longer her fiance. He decided that Australia day was the day that he was going to leave her stranded and take the car that he bought for her away from her. She doesn't care any more.. He proved he only wanted her for sex and her kids had grown to dispise him. She says she is heaps happier. I often wonder if finding someone to love is possible as we all have baggage as we get older and it is harder to deal with as we are not nieve any more.

Anyway, Australia was good great bbq at her place, kids swimming in pool, great conversation. Then we went to the beach for awhile. No stress just fun.

Today reality came back with a bang. Bills to pay and no money to pay them. I had a house inspection on the house I rent, so I was cleaning all day in 35 degrees celcius. Panicking that it won't pass and they won't want to renew my lease. The life of the only parent is tough because no body else is there to make sure the pieces fit and everything works, you are alone. I had $263 to pay rent of $520 and other small bills as well as school went back so I have to make sure I have enough for lunchs and I have to do groceries. What to do. I have 3 kids and I have 1 income and no other chance of a second income. The bills I have are the same as a married couple with 3 kids, but where they can make 2 incomes, there is only 1 in my house until my kids grow up. How is the only parent to survive. Some single mothers at least get maintainence. The only parent, NONE. Not even a night or weekend kid free to revitalise. How do we cope? I have no idea. But we do. Anyway, I paid 2 days rent of $150, to stop being sent a remedy notice and bought enough cheap food to make a couple of good meals and will have pasta on other nights. I will bake for school snacks. Hopefully, that will keep wolves at bay for a week or until I can work out where else to make money that fits in with the kids. Any sugestions?
Anyway on a brighter note. The guy I have spoken to on the speed date site has txt me twice. He seems so sweet. Have no idea what I am getting into but it feels good. I am supposed to talk to him tonight. Hope he comes on. God I have no idea what I a doing. Time will tell. Keep in touch and find out more. Heart break or love. Money or contiuously broke. Only the fate knows. God damn you fate. Ha Ha bye for now.

Chilling at home

Well after such a busy day yesterday I got to sleep in till 10am.. bliss. sun was shining pool was relaxing. sat in my daggy at home clothes until about 1pm. went and saw my friend who had the kids birthday party and she was telling me how her fiance who she thinks she is going to break up with got shitty cause she didn't want to leave the kids that were sleeping over with her 17 year old daughter at 12.30am to go to the casino with him. He then decided to come around to her house at 6am and hop into bed with her and try and have sex with her, then when she said no he got shitty again and could understand. Then when she explained it to him he cut her off half way and tried to have sex with her again. When it didn't happen he got shitty and left. Needless to say she has finally made the decision that it is finally over. But then she has her ex (the father of her kids) still ring and txting 20 times a day to say how much he loves her or is she awake or why hasn't she answered. and they have been apart for almost 4 years now and he lives with his girlfriend and has for almost four years. And people wonder why I am in no hurry to get into a relationship again.

After that I came home to just relax with the kids and have dinner. Decided to go on a speed dating site on the internet and started chating with a lovely guy. He lives in another state and there is no future, but it nice to have someone to talk to.

Well that is my day. I acheived nothing but enjoyed the whole day. Tomorrow I will have to get serious again and work out budjets and pay bills.

Have a nice day and enjoy.

Forgetting my troubles for a day.

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Today was a busy day for all the right reasons. When I woke up this morning I had the same dread I always do,,,, Where am I going to find enough money to pay the bills and will the landlord be happy when I have my inspection, there is so much to do and only me to do it...... Luckily today I had other things to occupy my mind. I had 2 social outing to go to. Normally I sit at home on the weekends by myself or I am cleaning and tiding my house that I know will look the same within about 2 hours of me finishing. But not today. Today I had a baby shower to go to and a friend's childs birthday party. My morning consisted of waking up my 9 year old and her friend so that they could get ready to go to the birthday party. Getting them breakfast. feeding dog and cat and getting myself ready to go to the baby shower.. As usually time got away and I was rushing out the door knowing I was going to be late to the baby shower as I still had to go to the shop to buy wrapping paper, then drop my daughter and her friend off at the birthday party.
Rushing in the door to my friends house where the birthday party was, I quickly said 'hi' then 'bye will be back later have great time' got in the car and rushed to the baby shower.
Now I can start to have fun. Only a half an hour late, not too bad. Lots of laughter and games, couple of glasses of wine and orange, and great company, I was able to feel like an adult with adult conversation. No kids at this party. It was 3 hours of fun and laughter with my friends from work. And no men. Wish we had more time to do this more often. Time now to go back to birthday party to spend some time and see how that was going. Great kids in pool, food on table, (didn't eat much at baby shower too busy having fun) more great adult conversations with some friends I hadn't seen in ages. Kids were having a great time and it was great to watch them being carefree and have fun. Before I knew it some of the kids were being picked up and I had been there for 3 hours. What a great day this had turned out to be. I stayed awhile longer as my daughter was having a great time. Time went on and more friends I hadn't seen for awhile turned up. More laughter and reminising, as it got dark we decided to build a bon fire. The kids loved this and we toasted marshmellows and laughed more... Before I knew it, the time was 11pm, time to go home. I left home at 11am. What a great day, no stress, lots of laughter and some quality fun time with my youngest daughter. This is the way life should be. I'm going to bed stress free. I will leave that for tomorrow. My problems will still be there in the morning, but for tonight, I am going to bed with a clear mind and no problems, and some great memories. Cheers, I hope you all get to have a great day like this too.


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Parenting alone

I am surprised at how hard it is to parent on your own. I thought being a single mum was hard, but when the other parent is taken out of the picture completely, as in death, then it is a totally different situation. You start to realise how much of a contribution the other parent makes. I am a mother of 3 and I am now the only parent. This is my blog on how I cope being the only parent. The ups and the downs. The confusing thoughts that go through your mind.

Unfortunately, my husband had a drinking problem that got so out of control, that it made living with him unbearable. The kid's and I never stopped loving him, but we knew that for us to be happy we had to leave. Thus begun a life of a single mother. This was not easy as my husband didn't want to let us go and live a happy life and he got very nasty. After almost 2 years we were finally getting to a place where we could talk to each other without getting angry. The kids were enjoying getting to see their father without all the fights. I found being a single parent hard, but at least the kids got to have a relationship with their father and if I needed to ask an oppinion on what one of the kids wanted to do, at least I knew that he loved them as much as me and had their best interest at heart. He still drank way too much but we got to enjoy the days that he didn't drink as much. He had an input into their lives.

Then one day this all changed. He died...... What I thought was hard, (being a single mum) became soo much harder..I became the only parent of my children. No body else had an input into their lives. There was nobody who loved them as much as me anymore. I was alone on so many levels I had never even thought of. This is my day to day life. My thoughts and fears. My tears and anxieties. I hope this will help other parents that are the only parent feel that they are not alone. It is hard to deal with guilt over work, gulit over the other parent dying and guilt over never having enough time or money. Then there is the thought of when do I start dating again. Follow me on y journey, I am sure it will be an interesting one.

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